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Unhealthy Relationships – Raise a Flag

We all have relationships – with parents, families, schoolmates, friends, work colleagues.  These relationships should help us, support us, make us feel loved, safe and happy.

If a relationship often leaves you feeling uncomfortable, sad or afraid then it is likely an unhealthy relationship.

In an unhealthy relationship there is often one person who seeks to control the other. Controlling behaviour can take the form of physical, verbal or emotional harm.


Raise a Flag: words that describe negative relationship traits, including manipulative, guilt, violence, fear, and pressure.

Some red flags that your relationship could be unhealthy are if the other person…

  • Makes you feel bad about yourself
  • Ridicules you and calls you names
  • Tells you how to dress, think and feel
  • Controls who you talk to
  • Checks your texts, emails and social media
  • Does not agree to compromise – it must always be their way
  • Threatens you
  • Hits or physically hurts you in anyway

Fixers film – with Active Communities Network

It is very difficult to recognise and accept that perhaps a friend, lover, co-worker or family member isn’t treating you as well or respectfully as they should. Below are some links to further information and advice to help you decide if your relationships are healthy and if they aren’t what steps you can take and where to get the support you might need.

If you are concerned that you or someone you care about is in an unhealthy relationship – Raise a flag – tell someone, seek help.

Support and Advice for you, your friends, your family


The Bright Sky app is available from the App Store and on Google Play, and provides information on domestic abuse, sexual violence, consent, stalking, and harassment.  It supports those experiencing domestic abuse as well as concerned friends and family.  It supports English, Polish, Punjabi, and Urdu speakers.

If you think you may be the one causing your relationship to be unhealthy

If you are really concerned and want to report someone for their behaviour in a relationship but wish to remain anonymous – contact Fearless.


Recommendations Conference

Find out what the Youth Commission members recommended at the 2018 Recommendations Conference.


Partner Resource area

If you would like to work with the Youth Commission on their Raise a Flag campaign, we can provide access to resources.  If you need access to the resources, please enter your details in the Contact Form, select Youth Commission from the drop-down list, and specify that you are requesting access to the Raise a Flag resources.